Sunday, April 21, 2013

Break-Ups


Break ups are hard. There's no doubt about it. Unless the break up is mutual, there will always be feelings hurt but the extent of the drama depends on how you handle it. So here are some tips.

1) STAY OFF OF SOCIAL MEDIA! Do not, under any circumstances, bash the other person on twitter, facebook, google+, etc. This doesn't help you feel better, it gives the other person ammo for the future, and it shows that you aren't handling it well. Also, remember that you don't have to answer any questions you don't want to. Once you make that relationship change, people will be picking it apart like buzzards. Beware.
2) Talk to someone. If you're having trouble coping, there is no reason to deal with it on your own. Find a friend, a parent, a councilor, find anyone who will listen and just let it out. You will be amazed by how much it helps.
3) Write a letter to your ex and destroy it. Say everything you've ever wanted to say to them. It can be as mean as you need it to be. Take your time and let it all out. Then burn it. It has the same effect as #2, a sigh of relief.
4) Don't let anything you ex does post-break-up affect you. If they're dating someone new; great for them. If they're bashing you; they're just proving that you're better off without them.
5) STAY POSITIVE and always look on the bright side. As cheesy as it is, there are other fish in the sea and this is only high school. You have the rest of your life to find "the one." Believe me hen I say, it is not the end of the world.

Bottom line, NEVER let a break-up or a relationship define you. You are your own beautiful person.
Love yourself unconditionally.

2 comments:

  1. I agree with everything you said. Rule #2 helps a lot. If you stay by yourself and contemplate what could've went wrong and what could've went right, then nothing really comes out of it. Talking to friends and getting to hear some of their experiences and advice can help you get over it a little.

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  2. I wish i would've had this advice over the summer. Instead of going to friends for support I pushed them all away. I was scared they were all going to say the same thing, Move on. I wish I would've leaned on my friends more, and maybe things would be different now. Anyone reading this comment, follow these rules!

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